Black and Blossom

Tuesday, 19 May 2015

High waisted jeans: Asos
Body: Primark
Belt: Mums
T-bar heels: H&M
Bag: Tunisian market

If you go down to the woods'll find Shanika acting the fool!
My sister took these pictures on a family trip to the common, which explains me doubled over with laughter in the above photos. If there's one thing we do often and well in my family, it's laugh and usually at each others expense.

I was rocking this black ensemble because black really highlights my tan, which I'm still holding on to from Tunisia back in April. How cute is my little bag that I picked up at the market we visited in Tunisia? Haggled that bad boy right down to the equivalent of about a fiver...result!

Ghana Girls

Thursday, 14 May 2015

At the weekend my best friend got married! I was maid of honour, and it was genuinely one of the best things I've ever done. I was pretty busy doing maid of honour stuff and so couldn't really be toting my camera about, so these are all iPhone pics, but I think our happiness really shines through, it was one of the best weddings I've ever been to!
I love when weddings incorporate a cultural element and as Portia our beautiful bride is half Ghanaian, her and all her bridesmaids wore traditional Kente cloth material for the reception. We also did a dance in, to present the bride to her new husband, but unless you see the video, we won't talk about that ;)

I love the bright colours in the cloth we had and we all chose different designs for the tailor to whip up our stunning dresses, from long sleeved and peplum, to cross over back straps to my one shouldered number. And the brides' pink and gold number, sent over from Ghana, is just gorgeous.
Now I've found a good tailor, conveniently near me too, expect to see more African cloth designs on the blog. I've got some great material, just waiting to be whipped into a dress...or maybe shorts and a top...or high waisted skirt. The possibilities are endless!

Bikini Blushes

Thursday, 7 May 2015

Holding my stomach in...definitely sucking hard!

Bikini: Primark

I have a pretty stupid tradition of buying a new bikini for each new holiday and this year I decided I wanted a 1950's style, high-waisted style and found this tie-dye style in cheap fashion mecca, Primark. And I realise how pathetic this sounds, but for the first time I had to buy a size 10 bottoms instead of my usual 8's. We all know our own bodies, and this was the first holiday that my body felt different. I'm a slim person, I know that, but my body is no longer as firm as it once was, there were dimples and rolls where once there had been abs. Metabolism is catching up with me in my old age!

And then I looked around at the other girls I was with. Not one of us was bigger than a size 12 and yet everyone moaned and complained about our figures when we were around the pool. Let me be clear, all of us looked amazing. Floppy hats, sheer cover ups and stylish sunglasses complimented gorgeous bikinis. At our hotel, we were practically celebrities, the staff and guests alike fawning all over each us wherever we went in the hotel (LOL) and yet we were all bitching about our own bodies the moment we were stripped down.

Body confidence has never really been an issue for me. My mum was pretty open about the naked body and I've always felt confident with mine. Ex lovers have told me the way I would walk around naked was pretty unusual, but I've always felt comfortable in my own skin. But when surrounded by the girls, suddenly I was realising all my new 'flaws' and picking them apart.

The night before I flew out to Tunisia I watched Plus Sized Wars on Channel 4, a documentary about the rise of plus sized bloggers. While some thought they glorified obesity, I felt they just wanted to be allowed to look as glam as everyone else and why shouldn't they? But what struck me was how supportive they were of each other (well apart from when one wanted to lose weight...women, get it together!) 
In the end, we all started to tell each other to shut up whenever anyone said anything negative about their size. If I want to tone up, I know what to do, we all do. But at the end of the day this is the one body I've got and I've never been ashamed of it before so I don't need to start now!

Pink Lady

Wednesday, 6 May 2015

Dress: Missguided
Wedge heels: River Island

When I was away, I saw a meme on Instagram which I now can't find (HATE that) but it was basically taking the piss out of the idea that girls wear expensive red bottomed heels, slinky dresses and chic make-up for guys - in fact it ended with "fu*k johnny lol"

And I agree.

When I wore this dress on a night out in Tunisia (all the bridesmaids wore pink, bride-to-be wore white), as I slipped into it and worried about nip slips sans tit-tape, guys thoughts on my appearance were the last thing on my mind. I wanted the other girls to like my dress and think I looked hot, I wanted to feel sexy and comfortable enough to slut drop if the feeling took me. It was a hen trip after all! I think most girls dress for other girls.
A big group of us from the hotel went out that night and there was a British girl who was all over a Tunisian guy...the kind of girl who dressed for a guy, maybe. But one night she got chatting to some of the other girls I was with and she confessed that she had been watching us all and we all looked so great and full of confidence. She basically wanted to join our crew!
Because when you see a girl who looks glamorous or edgy or super stylish, you wish you could look like that too, exude that confidence or attitude or whatever it is she's giving off.

I've never been super stylish, I wear what looks good on me or to suit whatever mood I'm in.
I don't dress to get attention from guys, in fact I find it annoying most of the time. I've been in relationships where I've been complimented wildly and consistently to ones where the highest praise I ever received was 'you look pretty', (genuinely don't know how my ego dealt with that one) so I don't really look for it there either. I dress to feel like I good when I look in the mirror. And for my girlfriends to ask me where I got my dress.

Tropical Tunisia

Monday, 4 May 2015

Vest: Dorothy Perkins
Skirt: Charity shop
Sandals: Barrats

I bought this skirt for £2 when out shopping with my mum and sister, who were convinced I would never wear it...well ha! I knew I'd be able to wear it, I love the bright vibrant colours and it was perfect for a day at the market and wine tasting at Le Chateau while in Tunisia. You can see how excited I was for the wine in the above photos and we all managed to pick up some super cheap bargains at the market, some of which I'll be showing off on here soon!